Has it ever happened with you that someone (acquaintance) comes to you and share his problems, no matter how personal they are?
It has happened with me, not once but many times. Over the time I have understood that it does not matter if you are able to provide any solution to their problem or not, the main thing that matters to them is that someone is listening to them.
So, when I was developing this blog, a thought occurred to me that why not let people share their problem here. If I have any solution I’ll definetely provide it, otherwise I have helped them already by listening to their problem.
Also, if others can help they are also welcome. All are requested to follow the rules mentioned below. As they say, “Human Being Learns from his Experience,” for the time they are few but I’ll develop more over the time.
Some Rules for Posting Comments:
- You can post your problems Anonymously but I recommend use a disguise name for yourself. (Comments require e-mail id but it is not displayed)
- No one will make fun of others’ problem.
- If you want to help someone do make sure your comments are not harsh. Keep your language clean.
- I’ll not send e-mail to anyone, until and unless asked to.
- If I found any of the comments violating above rules they will deleted.
So, don’t hesitate and share your feelings/problems here.
PS. I am not a councellor or some kind of psch. Doc. I am just trying to help you out.
I just want to tell someone because I can’t tell any of my friends this….
Well I guess I’ll start with it kinda started wen my bestfriend and i realized we liked the same guy. (one of our friends who hangs out with us) neither of us said anything about going after him or anything and i decided not to do anything(not that i would…i guess you could say i’m socially awkward except for with my friends…and with uncomfortable subjects…well i avoid them) anyway about a year later(a few months ago) my friend starts going out with him. it was really perfect timing cuz i had jus made up my mind to not think about him like that if i could.
anyway they broke up a month or so later but we all still hang out perfectly fine…(dont get me started on the break up story because they had the most courteous break up of all time…all my friends plus me are weird) anyway she’s starting to like someone else now and i was trying to be considerate and not do anything about him. but i’ve liked him for years (we’ve known each other since 8th grade and been friends since like 10th, maybe 9th….i’m saying like actual friends not like say hi when you pass in the halls but like hang out outside of school as well as inside.)
i was thinking about finally doing something about when now…not but 10 min ago i find out my other friend now likes him! i(i kinda suspected but i wasnt sure) and he knos cuz hes th 1 who told me(one of my other friends cant keep a secret to save her life -.-). i dnt know wut he’s going to do but seriously this is jacked up.
she’s still like one of my besties and im totally not telling her that i like him too but its just like…grrr. frustrating.
shes leaving soon and says shes not going to start anything but…i mean i finally get up the courage and then bam! srsly
wen she leaves ima want to wait a while becuz i dnt want her to think im tryin 2 move in on her guy jus cuz she left…blek blek blek…doesnt help that as soon as school year’s up then we all go our separate ways…college and all that.
i hate my none existing love life….stupid stuff…and you know what? i feel bad even thinking about this stuff because there are so many people out there so much worse off than me. i mean we’re mid class but we def not struggling and i may not get everthing i want but i dont want everything. i just want my friends and family and to stop being so damn shy around….welll, everyone!
but really other than that shit my life is great and i have nothing to complain about. no earthquake, no food shortage or money shortage, no bullying, no abuse or neglect, i dont have arguing parents anymore since they split, i have an awesome little nephew. i mean really what right do i have to complain. just because i’m almost 18 have never had a boyfriend and my crush only thinks of me as a friend and my other friend likes him doesnt mean the world is ending right?
-.- i need to go have a good pity cry now…cant use my ipod cuz my ma took it…great…just great….
crud…i didnt mean to turn this into one of those crappy self pity things…i just wanted to vent…
sorry. thx for putting up with this….
Hello infinite bookie,
You must be feeling very light at your heart and brain.
I’ll try my best to help you out, but cannot guarantee, how fruitful it will be.
First of all you are a school girl and I think you are in 12th standard now and your board exams are going to start in a month or so. So, your first aim should be to concentrate on your studies and exam.
If you want a break from studies for few minutes, here goes my comments about your problem:
For the moment we will forget about the first half of your story, till the Guy’s Break-up because it has happened and is past now.
Now come to the recent event that has happened:
Does it matter, when you will tell the Guy about your feelings?
I don’t think so.
If you think, you can definitely wait for the other girl to leave, wait for sometime and let the Guy be aware of your feelings. But look at the other side, if they are still in touch with each other (which I am sure will be because you are friends) and they still possess the same same feelings for each other. Then what will you do, keep waiting for another break-up. Definitely not. You cannot wait for one person whole of your life.
One solution is, let both of them aware of your feelings towards the guy but you need to be very careful and calm while doing so. I have seen things/friendship getting messed up when friends are involved in such affairs.
Also, you didn’t mention the Guys feeling towards the other girl. Although the news from the guy only shows he is also interested. But it still did not clarify the things. But in your context Guy’s feeling matter a lot.
If the Guy possess same feelings for you as you do then it is easy for you. If no, then at least you made yourself clear about your feelings towards him.
From my personal experience, I have regretted when I don’t let my crush aware of my feelings (she was my best friend). We parted after our school got over. Either way she is not with me.
Also, my friend let me know of his feelings to a girl and she is also not with him. But he is happy, at least he let her know of his feelings.
I hope I have given you both the scenarios, it is up to you to decide.
I have to rush now, its getting late for me. I’ll get back to rest of your problem on Monday. I hope I am of some help.
25-01-2010
As promised,
If you understand that there are lot of people who have worse conditions than yours, then there is no point in hating your non-existing love life. Some people don’t even have friends. You are lucky that you have friends. You should thank God and people around you that they are there for you.
Yes, as you have already said, “World does not end” when don’t have a boy friend, or your only crush treats you as a friend. This is just another phase of life. It will pass.
In the end, I’ll say take actions whatever your mind suggests and your first priority should be studies.
Best of Luck for your exams and future.